Posted by: coachrm | April 10, 2008
Warm fuzzy and cold prickly
Warm Fuzzy and Cold Prickly
Have you ever been out walking in the woods in the fall and got a bunch of burdocks stuck on your pants. Or worse yet have your dog get his paws and ears stuck up with them. You can’t just brush them off. You have to really get tough to pull them out or cut the hair of your dog to get them off. Often they will prick through your finger and draw blood. That is what a cold prickly does in an individuals life. They are negative, sarcastic comments made by one individual to another. You may think it is a joke, but after awhile they cut like a sharp knife.
I have found as I have gone through life that everybody has strengths and weakness. We try to hide our weakness and over come them. But some are really hard to get over. We brag about our strengths and make fun of other peoples weakness, but if you are honest with your self you know that you have weakness too.
Making fun of a weakness is always a cold Prickly. It hurts the other person self esteem and never helps them get over their weakness. In fact it can destroy friendships and working relationships. Try putting yourself in their shoes or mind and think how you would feel in the same situation if it was one of your weakness being made fun of. Warm fuzzes on the other hand our words and comments that build another person up and make them feel good about themselves. They can actually help an individual get over some of their weakness. A mature individual learns to use warm fuzzes and warns other people about the dangers of a cold prickly
What a much better world this would be if each of us cared about other peoples feelings and treated them the way we would like to be treated. None of us wants to be made fun of in a group situation. It is bad enough if it is one on one. Most people can take a joke, but it takes a special individual to recognize when they have crossed the line and their comments are hurting another person.
So remember the burdocks and your own weakness, the ones that are like old wounds opened up when somebody starts in on you. Lets care about each other and offer warm fuzzes and I promise you will feel better and so will those around you. Your world will become a friendlier place and you will be building lasting friendships instead of tearing them down.
A story for Coach McLeod’s Leadership class
Have you ever been out walking in the woods in the fall and got a bunch of burdocks stuck on your pants. Or worse yet have your dog get his paws and ears stuck up with them. You can’t just brush them off. You have to really get tough to pull them out or cut the hair of your dog to get them off. Often they will prick through your finger and draw blood. That is what a cold prickly does in an individuals life. They are negative, sarcastic comments made by one individual to another. You may think it is a joke, but after awhile they cut like a sharp knife.
I have found as I have gone through life that everybody has strengths and weakness. We try to hide our weakness and over come them. But some are really hard to get over. We brag about our strengths and make fun of other peoples weakness, but if you are honest with your self you know that you have weakness too.
Making fun of a weakness is always a cold Prickly. It hurts the other person self esteem and never helps them get over their weakness. In fact it can destroy friendships and working relationships. Try putting yourself in their shoes or mind and think how you would feel in the same situation if it was one of your weakness being made fun of. Warm fuzzes on the other hand our words and comments that build another person up and make them feel good about themselves. They can actually help an individual get over some of their weakness. A mature individual learns to use warm fuzzes and warns other people about the dangers of a cold prickly
What a much better world this would be if each of us cared about other peoples feelings and treated them the way we would like to be treated. None of us wants to be made fun of in a group situation. It is bad enough if it is one on one. Most people can take a joke, but it takes a special individual to recognize when they have crossed the line and their comments are hurting another person.
So remember the burdocks and your own weakness, the ones that are like old wounds opened up when somebody starts in on you. Lets care about each other and offer warm fuzzes and I promise you will feel better and so will those around you. Your world will become a friendlier place and you will be building lasting friendships instead of tearing them down.
A story for Coach McLeod’s Leadership class
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